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Wednesday, March 5, 2014
1. The expression 'mad as a March hare' originated with a fictional character who is distracted and frantic. When were you last 'mad as a March hare' and what was it that made you that way?
I think I have "mad" or crazy moments more often then I care to admit but I don't think I have ever been truly "mad" lately... Unless you count in the morning before my coffee!
2. Mardi Gras this year falls on Tuesday, March 4th. Have you ever been to Mardi Gras, and if so what did you think? If not, do you have any interest in going? Purple, green, and gold are the colors of Mardi Gras. Which one is most prevalent in your wardrobe? How about in your home?
No, I have not been... & No, I have no desire to go. I would like to visit New Orleans someday but not during Mardi Gras.
Purple would be the winning color in my wardrobe but green would win out in my home!
3. Are you old fashioned?
Sometimes I think I am and sometimes I think I am not... I love modern conveniences but have very old fashioned ideas about values and roles... Go figure!
4. Do you carefully plan your vacations, or do you prefer the days to be more spontaneous?
Hahahahahaha.... Carefully plan... With LOTS of blood, sweat and tears! (If this is your first time reading my blog you should go back and read the last few posts! It's ALL about planning out current vacation!)
5. March is National Sauce Month...what's your favorite sauce, and what do you most often top with this sauce?
A tomato & basil marinara would be my all time favorite, but I love all kinds of sauces and topping... I get excited when I am at a restaurant and find a sauce on the menu I have never heard of before. (As long as it's not to hot spicy that is!)
6. What's something that easily brings a tear to your eye?
I am not a "crier"... Everyone cries from time to time but usually mine are hormonally driven... That being said, the first time I watched the movie Hachi I cried like crazy!
7. If you could own any sports team, which one would it be and why?
I have no desire and no idea, but if I did buy a team I would bring it to Maine... The population here might be low but the fans here are so loyal yet they always have to cheer on team from Massachusetts!
8. Insert your own random thought here.
When I was at the Mary & Martha Leadership Conference they took "professional head shots" of us. I dreaded this since I have very bad complexion issues... It is really bad right now and I am seeing someone about it, but I didn't want that to be the "face" in the photos... I have tried many cosmetics over the years and either they looked super unnatural or they made the irritation worse, but I bravely decided to try once more. The girls and I headed to Ulta and there I was introduced to an amazing cosmetics line called "It Cosmetics" and as generic as it sounds, I feel like I got my face back... Here see for yourself:
So sorry you've been sick! AAACK! Hope you're on the mend and stay well!
About the cruising idea... if Paul is concerned about how much money will get spent at destinations you will actually enjoy, here are a couple options:
1. Set a budget ahead. We have "x" dollars to spend at each of our three stops. If I spend less on Monday, I have more for Tuesday, or whatever. But there's a limit.
2. When we went on a cruise (ten years ago) you could pre-register and pre-pay for outings on your port days. They actually sent us a little catalog to choose from - probably all online now. For instance, one day we were signed up for a dinner/sunset sail - paid for before we left home. Another port day we left open and just wandered the shops and beaches (but then, I'm not a big shopper.) There were no financial "surprises" on the cruise.
But regarding money/spending/saving in general...
Oh boy... when my DH and I got engaged I could see the handwriting on the wall - we also come from night and day perspectives about money. Before we got married, Kerry agreed to take a financial planning class with me. Back then it was all Larry Burkett. Now it may be Dave Ramsay, or maybe there's someone newer. Whatever!
Do you think Paul might be willing to take a financial planning class together with you? While you feel stifled by his frugal ways, he may feel threatened by your free-and-easy attitude. (Maybe I'm exaggerating both sides here - I'm not implying you're irresponsible or he's mean.)
In our marriage the roles are reversed. I have a hard time spending money... we might need it later! But when we wrote out a monthly budget and allocated money for each different category, it got easier to spend THAT money on THAT category, without feeling like we were shorting ourselves in other areas.
You know, maybe if he could see on paper that you (you as a couple) are being diligent to meet your goals and obligations, you're tithing, and you're saving for emergencies, then he would feel okay about spending the money you've saved for vacation... on vacation!
My intent isn't to tell you how to manipulate him to do what you want - though what you want sounds reasonable! But the idea is to get you both on the same page. Oh my word, it is HARD WORK to get a budget hammered out and then live on it. But it's so freeing!
Anyway, that's my .02 cents. Or more like two bucks. Whatever! :D
You are so sweet to offer me solutions to what was basically my stomach virus fuels rant...
We actually did the Dave Ramsey plan about seven years ago and have been basically debt free for several years now. That is the reason Paul was able to quit his job back in 2010 so we could come back to Maine and take care of my parents. Since I took over my parent"s finances about a year ago I have been steadily working toward that goal for them too... I would say after all these years we both tend to have a fairly healthy view of money...
That being said, we do have very different spending styles. After almost 23 years of marriage he is generally pretty used to me. Our difficulty with this trip seemed to be that we had very different visions for it and just had to sit down and talk about it instead of just lobbing suggestions back and forth and shooting them down. We did that just today and have finally, at long last we have made a decision about where to go. I will leave the exciting reveal for another day very soon. We still have not made a final decision about the car but we did commit to make one by the end of this month so we are both researching right now.
Thank you for your grace in my last post/rant... Sometimes my blog becomes my online journal and this was one of those times... I wasn't feeling well and was feeling a time crunch. The next several months are really busy. In May, Allison & I are flying to Montana to tour the college in person and make some college plans for her, In June we have my grand baby's 1st birthday, and I think you all know that will be an event to remember! In July Mary & Martha has their annual conference in Kansas City. Then in August, Paul, Allison & I have to drive her out to Montana for her first semester of school... Wow I am exhausted just listing that... Anyhow I do have to work too and with all that we figured if we didn't go in April (when the original Cabo trip was) that it would be put off until October at the soonest... He was okay with that but I really, really wasn't. I worked very hard to earn that trip and I really had my heart set on some time away with just my husband. Once he saw how important it is to me to go sooner rather then later and once he started helping me make decisions. Once we were both committed to making decisions it went fairly quickly.
Come back over very soon for a little fun around my trip reveal!
Thanks for listening,
Sunday, March 2, 2014
We still haven't decided where to go on our vacation... We have ruled out Europe due to time constraints... Allison can take care of things here with my mother for a few days but anymore the 5-6 she will be over her head and even that is stretching things. Also, we seem to be at odds about planning the trip... You see my husband is EXTREMELY
To add to his miserly angst we are in the market for a second car. Back during my unintentional blog hiatus we got a new vehicle... Last spring we bought a new minivan. We chose it because everyone can fit in it at once without having to take a caravan of cars everywhere and it has stow & go seats enabling me to easily get my mother's wheelchair in and out. About a month later Katy & Jed needed a safe vehicle to transport the baby in, so we gave them the Pathfinder leaving us once again with one vehicle. We generally do fairly well but it has become an issue lately as my business picks up. We can afford a second vehicle... In fact we have been planning for it for sometime and won't need to finance it, but the actual act of spending the money is so overwhelming to him. The easy answer is for me to make the decisions and just do it, but I know from past experience that action in a short term solution. Acting on major decisions without him takes over his role of the head of our household and that wounds our relationship... Waiting on him to act frustrates me to the point of argument and even anger... We have needed this car since last summer!! It's the same old story... Introverted tightwad marries extroverted spender and they try to live in harmony!
That's what's going on in my life... How about you?
Thanks for listening,
PS. I had to enable "comment moderation" since suddenly after all these years of blogging I am getting spammed like crazy and I got tired of cleaning it up... Guess the spammers think I am suddenly big time now! Hahahaha!!
Friday, February 21, 2014
Thanks for listening,